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TikTok: A New Way To Discuss Caregiving

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I was scrolling through TikTok yesterday and saw a difficult series of videos that showed an elderly woman spitting and throwing items at her caregiver. This showed up on my "For You" page, and I thought this would be a unique opportunity to open the conversation to talk about caregiving.  Here is a screenshot from one of the initial videos that went viral.  Tough Times As A Caregiver This was one of many users that shared it, one video garnering over 5.2 million likes, and more than 295 thousand shares. There was no mention of the caregiver's race or insinuations made by the client, but it was easy for users to assume that this was the central issue. Some of the comments included: "Never too late to unplug it," "she literally on 1%," "nah, it's her time. we won't snitch sis," and one of the few that stood out to me was "They don't pay her enough money to deal with that ."  The text on the video is also worth analyzing. ...

Caregiving Stories: Loretta Veney Interview

 I interviewed Loretta Veney, and she is such an asset to the caregiving community, especially for those that are caring for someone who lives with Dementia or Alzheimer's.  What drove you to move her into a senior living community? Was it hard? Did you question yourself at times? She first took care of her grandmother with colon cancer, she wanted to die at home and had a colostomy bag. She took classes for colostomy care. She and her cousins thought that their aunt wanted to help take care of her mom.  Loretta wrote her book based on dementia and it came out of the blue. Her mom was 77 when diagnosed with dementia. We spoke about the woman that took a dishwashing job at the facility her husband was in since COVID started because they had never been separated. Instead of complaining, she changed her circumstances to solve the problem. Loretta has spoken to gerontology students to prepare them for what they will encounter. Students are often shocked by the behaviors t...

The Literature and Narrative of Dementia

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Dementia is a condition that cannot be fully conveyed through literature, but the narrative has its place in learning about and analyzing a person’s life course, which is overtaken by the clinical and medical courses. Relationship dynamic changes             When someone is diagnosed with dementia, their whole world is changed, and the way that they experience life is dramatically altered. It is critical to hang onto what they can do, and can remember, but it is equally important to be able to anticipate the gaps that they will not be able to fill in. Spouses will be faced with moments where their spouse no longer remembers the dynamic of their relationships, when their spouse flirts with other people, etc… You become whoever they need you to be. Today you are their cousin, tomorrow you might be their father, the next, you are an old pet.             In addition to these c...

Global Prevalence of Dementia/Alzheimer's (A Perspective on World Alzheimer Report from 2009)

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  The expected number of individuals living with dementia is expected to triple by 2050 Dementia as a society When we look at the state of care for dementia around the world, it is easy - from a care provider perspective - to see gaps, holes, and knicks in coverage. However, if one wanders outside of the realm of being a family carer, a caregiver, or healthcare provider, it may be difficult to notice or observe these inadequacies. Education is a key component to the success of dementia care, not only for healthcare providers but for society to remain more educated on dementia.  For example, when creating senior living facilities, individuals living with dementia are always separated into a different "ward," separated by heavy, and intimidating security doors with codes and cameras watching one's every movement. We should look to assimilate seniors who are living within the same community, to avoid the sad story of couples who are separated based on differing care needs, l...

I Feel Guilty For Wanting to Re-Home Mom

 Many adult children face this question every day, not sure what the right solution is, and the great part is, you are not alone! 85% of seniors want to stay at home for as long as possible     The statistics are overwhelming, however, the expectation of staying home is different than it if it is feasible and realistic for someone to remain at home. Some older adults maintain their independence and ability to complete activities of daily living up until they pass away, others, are more than likely going to need additional support along the way, whether that means home health services like physical therapy, or respite care for a family caregiver when they go on vacation.   There are many people involved     If your mom or dad wants to stay at home, but you or your siblings have observed their daily routine long enough to know that home is no longer safe for them, that is something to take note of. You can also get their physician, social worker, and the...

Oral Care and Older Adults

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  As we age, oral care should not take a back seat, and caregivers can help older adults maintain their dignity through oral health maintenance.    Why is brushing important for seniors?      Brushing is a part of a daily routine for oral health, or maybe denture care for certain people. To some, being able to chew and consume food is an expectation, but this can only be a reality when oral health and care is maintained.  What are the consequences of poor oral health?     Senior care facilities can support residents by making sure that oral care is a part of everyone's routine, from independent living to in-patient hospice care, oral swabs are available to be used. Some common oral issues in older adults include dry mouth, gum disease, tooth decay, and oral cancer. Individuals living with dementia can often experience intense oral pain without a way to express their pain through verbal means and use gestures or abnormal behaviors to convey t...